I’m sure some of you have experienced a long-distance relationship, or indeed are in one now. Or perhaps you or your partner works away a lot, so there are many evenings when you are not together. For obvious reasons this can make sex, or at least sexual desire very difficult. We cannot always control our libidos, and it can be very frustrating when you feel horny and your partner isn’t around. But there’s no need for you to simply ignore it – you can either masturbate in the normal way to achieve relief, or you can spice things up and indulge in two-way masturbation with your partner.
Probably the most simple way to achieve this is phone sex. It can be very arousing to hear your partner masturbating on the other end of the phone, and vice versa. If you’re brave enough, talk dirty to one another. Describe what you’re doing, or as a pre-cursor to the event, read a passage from an erotic novel (choose from the dozens available on the website – a personal favourite of mine is Portia da Costa’s Continuum). You could change it so you’re substituting yourselves for the characters in the book just to give it that extra twist.
However, in this age of technology, there is a more visual way that people who are not physically together can indulge in sex. If you have a computer with a Webcam and are connected to the Internet, the sky’s the limit. Many hotels nowadays have an Internet connection, sometimes it’s free too, even better! So hook yourselves up and get going!
Now you can see each other despite the miles between you, what do you do? This is often the most awkward moment, knowing what to do. Although you know each other intimately, the different way in which you’re communicating and about to make love can cause shyness. Prepare yourself for this; relax and take a nice long shower or have a soak in the bath the way you would normally if you were anticipating a night of passion. Remember you’re actually going to see each other, so probably the comfy old pyjamas or boxer shorts aren’t going to suffice. Ladies, splash out on some sexy underwear or nightwear and surprise your lover as your image comes up on his computer screen. There is a lot to choose from on the site, so have a browse and think of the smile on your man’s face when he sees you dressed like that! You could even team the outfit with some sexy hold-up stockings to give him a real treat! And gentlemen, don’t think you’re getting out of it that easily! There are outfits and sexy undies for you too!
So, you’re relaxed and dressed up, now what? It’s back to the books! Grab a sexy novel from Sexshop365 and in your most provocative voice, read out passages, remembering to make eye contact with the webcam every now and again. Be confident, after all it’s the person you make love to in reality, so why should it be any different virtually? Remember they probably feel just as silly too, so just keep going and soon you’ll be pros!
Now you’re really in the mood you can move onto the next stage. Not that! Not yet, anyway. If you were together, chances are you’d be indulging in foreplay, so why should things be any different now? You’ve seen each other dressed up sexily, and have been talking dirty and reading passages from sexy books to each other. Why not tease each other? If you’re feeling brave, what about a striptease? Perhaps you could take it in turns, or even do it at the same time? Play some sexy music and give it a whirl! It’s not for everyone, of course, but you don’t know until you try!
OK, so by now you’ve either fallen about laughing, or wish even more you were together in a physical sense so you could get your hands on the goods. Now make yourselves comfortable, make eye contact with the Webcam and prepare to give yourself some pleasure, whilst pleasuring your partner at the same time.
Touch yourself softly; trace your lips with your fingers, perhaps pop a finger in your mouth and give it a cheeky suck, accompanied by a wink! Graze your hands all over your body. Touch yourself in ways your partner ordinarily would; or use this as an opportunity to show them things they’ve never tried before. I’m sure they’ll be taking notice and will be desperate to try it for real when you next see each other! If you’re into it, tweak and pinch your nipples… touch everything except your genitals. That comes later.
Don’t forget the back. Many people find bottoms incredibly sexy (myself included), so turn around and show your partner what they’re missing. Bend over and touch yourself. Perhaps give a glimpse of what is between your legs at the same time… Alternate these poses until you’re ready to have virtual sex.
Have you decided how you’re going to masturbate? Perhaps you’d prefer to do it manually (i.e. just using your hands)? You’ll need a good lubricant to make sure things go *ahem* smoothly and compensate for any lubrication you would normally receive through oral sex. A high quality lube can make the masturbation experience much more enjoyable for both sexes. Ladies, smooth it over your clitoris, dribble some over your labia, and away you go. Gentlemen, either dribble it directly onto your penis, or warm it in your hands first and then slide your hands down your penis, spreading the lubricant over your shaft as you do. Show your partner just how sexy you are when you pleasure yourself. Immerse yourself in the experience. Try not to be self-conscious. Chances are you’ve touched yourself in front of your partner before. If it makes it easier, close your eyes and pretend this is a normal sexual encounter and he/she is close by, watching. If you do close your eyes, though, make sure you’re taking it in turns to masturbate, or you’ll be missing your lover in action!
If you’re after something more than manual masturbation, it’s time to look at the huge variety of toys on the market. There really is something for everyone, it’s just a chance of doing a bit of research and finding what’s right for you.
Perhaps the most obvious choice for women is a rabbit vibrator. Despite the fact they have been around for some years now, they have yet to be improved upon (or if they have, I haven’t yet heard about it!). Rabbits now come in many different shapes and sizes, they have ‘starter’ rabbits and all-singing, all-dancing ones, that thrust, twirl and even ejaculate! So shop around and find one that suits you.
Unless of course you don’t want the rabbit-style vibrator. You may prefer an ordinary vibrator, or even just a dildo. Some people find it easier to come through anal stimulation and therefore may want to consider an anal toy. For others, they can’t come through just vaginal, clitoral or anal stimulation, so get a double penetration toy, which will take care of your orifices, leaving you a hand free to rub your clitoris. It’s important to remember that we’re all different, so browse the website, there are literally hundreds of toys to choose from, there’s bound to be something that will bring you the ultimate pleasure in your lover’s physical absence.
If you think there’s less choice available for men, you may be right. However this is rapidly changing. Male Masturbators are no longer something to be ashamed of, gone are the days of scary-looking blow up dolls! You can now purchase masturbators designed to look as lifelike as possible, complete with vagina and anus nestled nicely between two pert bum cheeks. These now even come in vibrating varieties! Alternatively there are the hand-held sort, which you simply fill with lubricant and have your way with, and even blow job and “masturbation tits”! So compared to the time before the Internet was king, you’re spoilt for choice!
Standard and vibrating cock rings will enhance your orgasm when it arrives and will make your penis longer and harder. Your lover will definitely be wanting to climb out of your computer screen and join you!
The kinkier types reading this may be interest in prostate massage – the act of massaging the prostate gland, which can in itself produce an orgasm without touching the penis. These again come in standard or vibrating varieties, so it depends on how much you can take without ejaculating!
So there you have it. A basic guide to some toys and accessories which can make your long distance love more fun and sexy. I’m not saying these are the be-all, end-all. There are new toys being added to the site every day, therefore even more chances for you to find something you really want.
Whatever you buy, though, I would definitely recommend that you purchase some lubricant, preferably a condom-friendly one with a pump-action lid. You’ll also be needing something to clean all those toys you’ve been playing with, and yourself! Visit the personal hygiene section of the site to make sure you’re all squeaky clean after your naughty encounter! Until the next time, anyway…
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