In my earlier article here, I talked about the theories behind a sex drive mismatch when the woman wants more sex than the man. As I said before, it is important to communicate and to show love and respect for your partner. And that still stands, but I also recognize that when there is a problem to be tackled, you can’t just talk—eventually, you have to get your hands dirty.
So what do you do after you've expressed mutual love and support? Well, peeps, you figure out some other way to get. it. on.
To that end, gentlemen, I present to you five great ideas for keeping your personal sex kitten purring in contentment even if you're not quite in heat yourself:
1. Fantasy Massage Oil
Massage is where it all starts, really. The desire for sex isn't just about wanting the orgasm--often it is the much simpler desire to be touched and loved. Using a better quality massage oil makes a massage feel like the most seductive thing in the world. There is also something kind of fun about swishing it around and rubbing it into your partner’s skin, so it should keep you amused as well. Never underestimate the power of a massage to tame a highly sexualized woman.
2. Fukuoku Five Finger Massage Glove
Giving your hands that little bit extra, the Fukuoku lets your partner enjoy the sensation of your hands on her--trust me, the best part of sex--but also adds the excitement of vibration. Which, I might add, will bring her to orgasm faster. If that is a concern for you. :) This is also waterproof, which means there is really no end to all the different ways you can use this toy.
3. Toy Joy Twin Twister
You can use the lack of standard penetrative sex to your advantage with a double dildo--double penetration is now completely possible, even without inviting over your next door neighbour. That this version has the option of vibrating just increases its usability and it is darned cool to look at. This toy also works well for a dual-partner evening of vaginal and anal play—so if you find yourself in the mood, you can take advantage of having such a cool toy to hand.
4. Tongue Joy Deluxe Romance Edition
Oral sex is one of the best ways of satisfying a woman--especially if you're able to focus all on her, rather than doing it as a prelude to the 'real' action. But, it can be time consuming. And daunting. The Tongue Joy turns your already flexible, talented tongue into the perfect sex toy. You are now giving your partner both the erotic appeal of having your head between her thighs, and the vibration that really gets the job done. Your work is made easier, your woman is kept happy, and everyone is a winner. You can't really beat that with a stick.
5. Vibrating Beginner's Hollow Strap-On
You can certainly simulate sex using an ordinary dildo or vibrator, but the sheer joy of this is giving your partner all the parts of sex that toys can't quite replicate--the feel of your weight on her, the feel of skin against skin, the physicality of sex. Adding in a vibration means extra fun for her and fun for you, too. And like the Twin Twister, this is another toy that you might find you want to take part in. This one has a comfortable harness and is ideal for your partner to wear for anal sex.
Having a partner who has a higher sex drive than you can seem like an insurmountable obstacle. But it really doesn't need to be. If you are willing to try a few things out and willing to talk to your partner about what it is specifically that can keep her satisfied, you can find that her drive and happiness with you makes your own drive seem a perfect match.
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