Are You Single, Ladies? How to Make the Most of Your Time Alone--Things to Think About

It can be hard to imagine--especially when you're sleeping in a too-big bed with feet as cold as frozen turkeys and no warm body to put them against--that there are certain advantages to being on your own.  But there are, at least sexually.  It is important to consider some options and benefits that are out there sexually for women on their own (and no, that does not include going to the local and picking up some random--you can do that without my say so, ladies) because that time can be more valuable than you think. 

I think too often we get this idea in our heads that relationships are the goal that we are all trying to achieve.  Especially as women, we are told from the time we are knee high that we need to get a husband, settle down in a cozy little house, raise some little nuggets, and have a wonderful life.  But for all that tradition, things are changing for us--more and more of us are waiting to get married and questioning why we want to always be in a relationship.  And rightfully so--unlike men, we don't really get any health or social benefits automatically with a steady relationship.

So let's talk about sex, then.  While we are told that having a partner is the real way for women to have a sex life, it is also true that the bulk of those women in relationships aren't sexually satisfied--it can be darn hard to give a woman an orgasm, in the defence of the men.  Unfortunately, many women start exploring their sexuality with a partner before they ever try things out for themselves.  And it can sometimes be the case that when we have a partner, we forget to pay attention to what we actually want sexually.  The onus seems to always be on Satisfy Your Man, So He Doesn't Cheat!--at least according to the more popular women's magazines.  I would never say that it isn't a worthy cause--I love a satisfied partner as much as the next girl.  But if you think back to all the times you had a man fall asleep while you're lying there thinking, "um...is that...it?" you might start to realize that life on your own isn't all bad.

Think of it this way--you may not have someone to hold your hand while walking down the street, make out with you at the movies, or surprise you with flowers--but by George, from here on out...Your orgasms are guaranteed.

Perhaps you've learned what works for giving you a basic orgasm.  But if you've only ever had a clitoral orgasm, maybe you're curious about whether or not there really is a vaginal orgasm that feels different?  There is, and you can find out what you need to do to have them--there are toys that can more easily put in the time needed to get you there without complaining about a sore arm or stiff wrist.  Finding the g-spot is only the first step.  You then have to figure out what type of stimulations feel best on it, what feelings your body will experience, and how to push on to the end.  These are things that can take time and a lot of trial and error.  It can sometimes be easier to relax and experiment if you're not worrying about whether or not your partner is getting bored with the task or thinking that there is something wrong with you.

Or maybe you just wish you could have a quick orgasm and go right to sleep--no shame in that, and it is now completely possible...without being thought of as being selfish.  Having a man go down on you until you come and then going to sleep?  Mean.  Using a vibrator until you come and then going to sleep?  Perfectly okay.  Not only can you masturbate when you want to without dealing with a partner wanting to join in or feeling inadequate because he can't, you can start masturbating in the master class--any toy you want to try out, you now can without worrying about your man's ego.  Want a big double-pronged dildo?  Go for it, and you may as well pick up a Rabbit or two while you're at it.  The world is your oyster when your sex life is your own.