While pregnancy is often the happiest time of a couple’s life it can also be one of the most frustrating one as well. Abstinence from sex is a common problem that many couples have to face but there are ways that you can still give each other pleasure even if intercourse is out of the question.
Fluctuating hormones can interfere with your sexual libido and it’s not uncommon to feel worried about hurting the foetus with over enthusiastic thrusting. This is, of course, untrue and many sexual activities are perfectly safe. However, if you really dislike the idea of sex whilst you are pregnant, then a sex toy could be just what you’re looking for!
As a rule Using a sex toy in pregnancy is completely safe for a majority of pregnant women but you may need to adjust the methods that you use or even the type of sex toy to make allowances for your partner’s changing body and perceptions.
Remember to keep your sex toys extremely clean and wash after use with special sex toy cleaner or warm soapy water depending on the type of material your sex toy is made from (See Cleaning and Caring for my Sex Toys for more information.) Store in a clean, dry place when not in use.
If you’re in the minority Women who have a history of complications in pregnancy or are experiencing an abnormal pregnancy, please do check with your midwife or GP if sex is okay. If the answer is yes, then introduce a sex toy carefully and slowly. The same rules apply for using a sex toy normally and never use it in both orifices without cleaning the vibro in between or using a condom.
Generally, women who are at risk of from an early labour, heavy bleeding and/or premature rupture of the membranes surrounding the baby should abstain from sex and the use of sex toys throughout the pregnancy.
For the rest Use plenty of lubrication as hormonal changes may alter the amount of natural lubrications your partner produces.
It may be advisable to only use a sex toy externally to stimulate your partner’s clitoris rather than inserting it in her anus or vagina as sex toys are a lot harder than the male penis. Careful insertion of a finger to stimulate the G-spot should be okay, though.
Avoid using sex toys internally in the later stages of pregnancy as they may trigger an early labour.
Which sex toys are the safest to use? Avoid sex toys that are mainly about penetration. This includes dildos and some of the more advanced and complicated vibrators. Go for the smaller vibes like the Micro Gem Lavender Vibrator or the Pocket Prick. Use the vibrator on the clitoris, perineum or breasts. Use plenty of lube but make sure to wipe it all off afterwards.
Other options to try could be the use of waterproof vibros like the Aqua Vibe or Luv Bug. Or get your partner involved with a finger vibrator like the Dinky Dolphin Finger Vibe or the Finger Vibe Ecstacy kit.
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