How to have rougher sex: Pain and Punishment
After answering a question this week on whether or not women really do like to have a rougher, ‘pounding’ session, I spent some time yesterday looking at some products which are made for bringing a bit of bondage to your sex life. Today, however, I’m going to look at the other side of rougher sex and spotlight some products which help you to be rougher in terms of a bit of pain and punishment.
Don’t be put off by the idea of pain–it doesn’t have to be an extreme thing, nor does it have to involve an elaborate set up. Think about spanking or flogging; it’s not extreme pain, but it can bring just the right amount of increase in sensation and add a bit of naughtiness to your sex play.
Probably the most difficult thing with trying out spanking and punishment-play is not the pain itself, or even picking out the right toy, but instead is the difficulty of knowing how to get started. Whether you aren’t sure how to bring up the topic or if you aren’t sure what to actually do when you’re playing, these stories will give you a whole heap of ideas. Use it as a way to broach the subject with your partner; try reading them to each other in bed.
Just because you’re trying out pain, that doesn’t mean that it has to not be romantic or sweet. Remind your partner that you care about them while you’re paddling their tush with a paddle covered in adorable red hearts. The paddle itself is made from genuine leather, so you’ll get a great feeling spank, without having a cheap feel or falling apart after too vigorous of use.
Don’t be frightened by how serious rubber whips look–they really aren’t that intense. It all comes down to how they’re used and how much pain your partner wants. These rubber whips are fabulous for those who are just starting out because the light, rubber fronds can be used to tickle and please just as easily as they can be used to cause a bit of pain. Are you a bit more advanced? Try wetting the whip in cold water–it will add even more snap.
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