A Man’s Guide to Pegging–Part One
For general advice on pegging, take a look at the article “Pegging–A How-To Guide” . Going to be the pegger rather than the peggee? Try the “A Woman’s Guide to Pegging“.
Pegging (also known in some parts as Bend Over Boyfriend or BOB) is a sexual practice that is just advanced enough to require that both participants prepare for it beforehand and take an active part—so even if you’re receiving, that doesn’t mean that all you need to do is lie back and enjoy the ride. In fact, yours is the more active role, as you’ll be determining how the session goes down.
Before you really start to consider pegging seriously, you need to do a little bit of prep work. First, explore other types of anal play, especially with your partner. Fingers, plugs, beads…they’re all fair game. What you want is to get a better idea of what stimulation works best for you—size, shape, speed—and what doesn’t, so when it comes time you can help your partner choose the best size and shape of dong for her harness. You’ll also want to be able to communicate with her how slowly you need to go and how gentle/rough you’ll want to get.
Second, learn to relax your muscles in preparation for penetration. The first few times you explore with anal play, it can be difficult to control some of the involuntary clenching spasms—that is perfectly fine when you’re just playing around with fingers or toys, but it will be frustrating for everyone if your partner is strapped up and ready to go.
Finally, you’ll want to get clear in your own mind how you want the action to play out. Do you want something tender and loving or do you want your partner to be rougher with you? If you have it clear for yourself, you’ll have a better chance of communicating that with your partner and getting exactly what you want. Don’t assume that she’ll know—there are a whole lot of ways to enjoy pegging, so you can both have completely different ideas going in. The only way to know for sure is to talk about it.
One of the things you need to think about is what position you will be most comfortable in. Pretty much any position you usually get into with your partner will work with the roles reversed—yes, even missionary—so you’re only limited by your flexibility and what you’re comfortable with. Discuss this with your partner as well, so she can prepare with extra pillows if she needs to.
Done all your prep work and now you’re ready for advice on what to do in the moment? Come back tomorrow for more tips.
Have a burning question? You can write to me at mcbirdie@sexshop365.co.uk.
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