Dear Birdie,

Is it just me or when men don’t get something to do with sex they go in a mood and blame their partner?

My boyfriends likes bum fun; we tried it but it really hurt me.  But he doesn’t seem too realise that because of the pain, I don’t want it the same way he does.

He is always texting me asking me for it, then says there is no point since he never gets it.   Then he goes into a mood and falls out with me.  Is it just me?

T

hanks,

No Fun

Dear Fun,

I wouldn’t generalise it as being something all…

I’m so sorry that I’ve left the second part to this letter hanging out in the wind for so long, but I’ve had to learn a harsh and real lesson about what happens when one chooses to eat dodgy mushrooms.  I won’t bore you with a detailed account when I know you only came here for the good stuff, though.

When we last looked at the letter asking how to have less painful anal, written by a young girl, I was less than enthusiastic about her trying again.  As I said then, however, this is mostly down to her age and…

Exploring Anal Play: Lubes to Try  by mcbirdie on 25 Jan 2010 Share |

After fielding a question on how to go about masturbating anally, we looked at some toys which are especially good when you don’t want to just use your hands.  That is all well and good, of course, but the most basic item that you really must have in your anal arsenal is a good lube.  Lube makes all toy play better–trust me on this–but it is absolutely essential when you’re playing anally.    Good all purpose lubes will do the trick in a pinch, but if you’re going to spend some time getting a bit more advanced, you’ll want to try out…

Dear McBirdie,

I’m not sure if you can answer this, but I have a question. I’ve been trying to finger myself a lot and I’m a boy (yes, I’m gay).  How exactly do I go about it? I’ve seen a lot of tips for girls, but how do I do it since I’m a male? Please, help.  :)

Boy for Fun

Dear Boy,

Now this is a fun question.  Plenty of questions come in about how to masturbate–both for girls and boys–and also questions on how to masturbate someone else, but it nearly always strictly hands-to-genitals; poor anal play gets very little attention.  Which…

Ooh–the deals continue! Rude Boy Lube and Butt Plug Special  by mcbirdie on 26 Feb 2009 Share |

I was already impressed by the Rock Chick deal that I saw last week, but if I had been sensible, I would have realised that there was likely to be a similar deal with the Rude Boy.  The Rude Boy is, afterall, the male equivelent to the Rock Chick.  Where the Rock Chick is meant to curve around putting pressure on the g-spot and vibrating against the clitoris, the Rude Boy puts pressure on the prostate and vibrates against the perineum.  What all of that means, of course, is that it’s one heck of a good time for the gentlemen.

Like the other good prostate massagers–for…